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So my husband and I have been through the longest part of our visa processes. It was only supposed to take 5 months, but took 6, but after much ado the 1st part of our visa process was approved :)...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) Now we just have to send out a few more documents and go through our interview, which I'm sure we will past because we honestly are in love and true! I'm so excited to finally have part one out of the way though :) I think I did the happy dance through our home 10 times. lol Hopefully we just have a few more months left. I just have to keep praying that everything will turn out well while we wait. :) But for mow yayyyyyyy :D hehe
- Mood:
ecstatic
I don't post here often, but my husband is in the Navy so he comes and goes a lot. He got back from a seven month deployment in December. We got married in January which is also when we bought a house and when he got shore duty orders! Shore duty means he won't be on a ship for a few years. This doesn't mean he won't still travel for work. We're told he'll still be going away every now and then, but at this point we're hoping it'll be once every few months. Lately he's been gone pretty much all the time. His ship was gone for a month, came back for a few weeks. He got injured while the ship was in port so he got to stay behind this time. They've been gone for almost a month now, and I'm loving it. I mean it sucks my husband is hurt, but he gets off work pretty early. Most days he's home before I've even left for work. It's so amazing spending so much time with him. His ship comes back soon at which point he'll go out to sea with them for not too long, and then they go back out to sea but he'll be staying behind because he starts his leave (vacation) in mid June!
It seems like it was only last week that we were trying to figure out which ship he should go to since he was being denied shore duty orders, and now he's all done with ships for at least the next few years. I'm so happy to have him home more than he'll be away. We've decided o start trying to have a baby sometime while he's on shore duty that way he's more likely to be home for the birth. I feel like our life is really starting now. I mean, sure in three years he'll have to negotiate orders again and he may end up on another ship, and maybe he'll be leaving town more often than we're hoping once he starts with his new command, but fro now I'm considering this a success story.
It seems like it was only last week that we were trying to figure out which ship he should go to since he was being denied shore duty orders, and now he's all done with ships for at least the next few years. I'm so happy to have him home more than he'll be away. We've decided o start trying to have a baby sometime while he's on shore duty that way he's more likely to be home for the birth. I feel like our life is really starting now. I mean, sure in three years he'll have to negotiate orders again and he may end up on another ship, and maybe he'll be leaving town more often than we're hoping once he starts with his new command, but fro now I'm considering this a success story.
Just thought I'd let everyone here know that I'll be seeing my sweetheart in 11 days! 11 mfking days! I have waited too long for this. Though we're only gonna spend 3 weeks together, 2 here and 1 in Maldives, nonetheless we finally meet again.
I am so happy I want to explode!
I am so happy I want to explode!
Hey everyone! Recap: C and D, 1200 miles apart, together 6.5yrs.
I got super busy with two weeks of finals but I'm finally finished my first year of vet school and thus my first year of long distance! I'm home May-August now and we're back to SD until the end of August when I go back. I spend the weekends with him and we still talk every day or night (as an aside, it's so nice to be back on the US phone plan - we can talk whenever instead of only after 9pm!)
We've started to discuss serious things now, instead of just mentioning them in passing - a car, a house, children, etc and it's just wonderfully exciting. Scary too, of course, but it's just solidified in my mind what an amazing guy I have and how lucky I am to be with him. With a year of LD under our belts, I feel like our relationship has matured even more and helped us both mature too. I know this all probably sounds pretty sappy but I can't help it, haha. Hope everyone is hanging in there for their next visit!
I got super busy with two weeks of finals but I'm finally finished my first year of vet school and thus my first year of long distance! I'm home May-August now and we're back to SD until the end of August when I go back. I spend the weekends with him and we still talk every day or night (as an aside, it's so nice to be back on the US phone plan - we can talk whenever instead of only after 9pm!)
We've started to discuss serious things now, instead of just mentioning them in passing - a car, a house, children, etc and it's just wonderfully exciting. Scary too, of course, but it's just solidified in my mind what an amazing guy I have and how lucky I am to be with him. With a year of LD under our belts, I feel like our relationship has matured even more and helped us both mature too. I know this all probably sounds pretty sappy but I can't help it, haha. Hope everyone is hanging in there for their next visit!
Hey guys and gals, I just wanted to share something I made that you might appreciate. I made a mix on 8tracks of songs having to do with long-distance relationships, hope you enjoy!
http://8tracks.com/mondestrunken/long-di
http://8tracks.com/mondestrunken/long-di
Who here has had to deal with the misery that is USCIS? And the constant hell that is applying for a K-1 visa? My fiance is in Australia and we're applying for a K-1, and it feels like it will never get anywhere and he will never get here. We sent in the initial petition on February 10, and I've gotten the receipt number but that's all I've heard on the status of our application. When I originally called to ask how long the process would take, I was told it would take 5 months from beginning to end, and that included everything, and at the end of that process he would have his visa and be able to move here. I just called again today (because I am going crazy) and the person on the phone rudely informed me that it takes 5 months just for the initial petition to be accepted, then it gets sent to the US consulate in his country and there's no knowing how long it will take after that. I told him that wasn't what I was told originally and it seemed like I couldn't get a straight answer out of anybody (I asked very carefully about three different times when I first called, just to make SURE I had the right information and could make the right decision). He snottily informed me that he didn't know what else to tell me and I should just go to my local office (I don't think there is one near Seattle). After I hung up the phone I burst into tears.
Now I just feel like I made the worst decision in the world to move back to the US. I mean, my visa expired after I had lived there for three years and I didn't know what else to do. We looked into getting married so I could stay there but I was told that the Australian visa would take 9-12 months to process and cost $3000, so compared to that, a 5-month wait sounded a lot more tolerable. But now I just wonder if I should have tried harder. I wanted to find an employer to sponsor me to stay in Australia, but that's really hard, especially in my profession, and I didn't have much time. I thought about applying for a PhD program so I could get another student visa, but a PhD isn't something you undertake just for convenience (I already did my master's there and I really just need to find a job at this point, that's another major source of anxiety for me right now). I just don't know what to do with myself right now. Long distance is so hard. I never thought I would even be in this situation. I've only been back 6 weeks and it's already the hardest thing I've ever done. All this is just contributing a lot to my current state of anxiety and depression, and that's causing some arguments and tension between us as well (I'm looking into seeing a therapist, though).
Sorry for this long emo post. I know most of you have probably been through a lot longer periods of separation. It's just that the not KNOWING is killing me, and I don't know who to talk to right now. My fiance thinks we should just suck it up and deal with it because it will be worth it in the end when we're together again. But I'm not good at just shoving my feelings aside like he is. I tend to dissolve under pressure and I really hate it.
Now I just feel like I made the worst decision in the world to move back to the US. I mean, my visa expired after I had lived there for three years and I didn't know what else to do. We looked into getting married so I could stay there but I was told that the Australian visa would take 9-12 months to process and cost $3000, so compared to that, a 5-month wait sounded a lot more tolerable. But now I just wonder if I should have tried harder. I wanted to find an employer to sponsor me to stay in Australia, but that's really hard, especially in my profession, and I didn't have much time. I thought about applying for a PhD program so I could get another student visa, but a PhD isn't something you undertake just for convenience (I already did my master's there and I really just need to find a job at this point, that's another major source of anxiety for me right now). I just don't know what to do with myself right now. Long distance is so hard. I never thought I would even be in this situation. I've only been back 6 weeks and it's already the hardest thing I've ever done. All this is just contributing a lot to my current state of anxiety and depression, and that's causing some arguments and tension between us as well (I'm looking into seeing a therapist, though).
Sorry for this long emo post. I know most of you have probably been through a lot longer periods of separation. It's just that the not KNOWING is killing me, and I don't know who to talk to right now. My fiance thinks we should just suck it up and deal with it because it will be worth it in the end when we're together again. But I'm not good at just shoving my feelings aside like he is. I tend to dissolve under pressure and I really hate it.
So I feel so frazzled right now. Not really in a bad or good way, kind of both. Sai's interview should be coming soon we are just waiting for our second letter telling us when, but we are so nervous. It's this moment we've been waiting for for 2 years now and part of me knows they will say yes, but their is still a part of me terrified they will say no to us or something will go wrong like they'll think we are not in a legit marriage or worse they will tell us our certificates are not real. What crap would that be! Everyone thinks we're married, my last name has changed, and everything. Of course, I am thinking of the worse possible scenario, but I can't help it. I'm freaking out. I just don't know what to expect in the next few months! I'm excited, I'm stressed, I'm nervous, I'm about to pee my pants with joy! lol. I just want it to be here and to get it over with so we know what to do next. O_O Anyway, just wanted to express my joyful, excited, freaking out, and scared moment. :/ But on the excited side it should be 2 or 3 weeks when we get the letter telling us whats next!!! :D
I remember a while back, someone linking to the design of this pillow, but have just found this article about it and thought people here would be interested.
For the link shy, it's a pillow that you both have one of. When you each go to bed, the other's pillow will light up and you'll hear his/her heartbeat as they sleep, they get the same when you go to bed, so it's like sharing a bed across distance. It works over oceans and continents and I know when the concept was mentioned in this comm years ago, people wanted to know if it ever became anything, so this is the first I've heard of it being around for sale. They've now raised enough cash and garnered enough interest to produce these pillows!
I apologise if it's been mentioned before, but I know that I will be buying a pair for Scott and I, if for no other reason than to know when he's asleep. It works via wireless signal and the article (and video) says it will work across continents, oceans, countries etc.
Just thought I would share!
For the link shy, it's a pillow that you both have one of. When you each go to bed, the other's pillow will light up and you'll hear his/her heartbeat as they sleep, they get the same when you go to bed, so it's like sharing a bed across distance. It works over oceans and continents and I know when the concept was mentioned in this comm years ago, people wanted to know if it ever became anything, so this is the first I've heard of it being around for sale. They've now raised enough cash and garnered enough interest to produce these pillows!
I apologise if it's been mentioned before, but I know that I will be buying a pair for Scott and I, if for no other reason than to know when he's asleep. It works via wireless signal and the article (and video) says it will work across continents, oceans, countries etc.
Just thought I would share!
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood:
energetic
Recap: I'm 30, living in the UK, he's 33 living in the USA.
So, Scott arrives in the UK to stay on Thursday :D He'll be flying through on Monday off to Denmark to see his friend, and then coming here on the Thursday to stay for a week :D I just got off the phone with him because he told me about this new smartphone app that allows you to call free without having to buy credits or anything. It's called Viber free to download from the app store and like I said, free to use and call. It also lets you send text messages for free which will bring down the cost of my bill by a massive amount.
So excited that it's so close and that I'm going to see him again *squee*
Hope you've all got visits to look forward to!
So, Scott arrives in the UK to stay on Thursday :D He'll be flying through on Monday off to Denmark to see his friend, and then coming here on the Thursday to stay for a week :D I just got off the phone with him because he told me about this new smartphone app that allows you to call free without having to buy credits or anything. It's called Viber free to download from the app store and like I said, free to use and call. It also lets you send text messages for free which will bring down the cost of my bill by a massive amount.
So excited that it's so close and that I'm going to see him again *squee*
Hope you've all got visits to look forward to!
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood:
excited
My name: Jen
His name:Mike
I live: Southern Ontario
He lives: Virginia
My age:35
His age:36
Distance:1000km
Together since: 1996
How we met: university
We get to see each other (approximately how often): 6weeks
Future plans: We are married and hope that this is a temporary situation, we've been living apart for just over a year, and have at least 2 more before we'll be living together again.
- Mood:
lonely
Alright, I can't contain myself! It's time to post. I posted here a couple times with questions about flights, currency exchange, etc.
Let me do a really quick introduction.
My partner and I have been together since my last trip from the USA to Australia (where she lives) in November 2011. I was only going there on a "we dated for four months two years back, but we are just best friends now". I fell in love during that week trip, she was exactly how I pictured her. The reason we split years ago was because of the distance and our ages. Both of us are 19 right now, however, her birthday is in April. She asked me to be hers on the beach.
Fast forward to now; we had a trip planned for me to go there in Mid-May since that was when I would have accumulated enough vacation and sick time to go plus there is that holiday day that I could use.
But during a meeting, my boss stated we would be extremely busy in late April and all through May; doing 10-12 hour shifts daily. So if we have vacation, to use it now. I got up the courage to talk to him about it. He said that I can't go in May, my heart broke. I told him I was flexible with leaving. He said if I was willing to do "no-pay" i could go when I wanted. So regardless that I'm not getting paid for a week... My trip went from being on May 15 to April 6th! A whole month and a week early.
The whole day after hearing that I was shaking from excitement. I planned to surprise my partner for her birthday on the 11th, talked to her friends so they could pick me up etc. But the next day I got too excited and told her.. I'm horrible at secrets.
I am just so excited. I get to stay for two weeks this time, while last time was only 6 days. UGH. I've had a count down on my work calendar since 105 days, it got down to 56 when I talked to my boss and currently I only have 9 days left before I leave. I probably sound like a little child due to the excitement. I still have so much to do. Exchange currency at AAA which was suggested here. Get some tylonal pm for the flight. Do laundry and pack. Buy her gifts.
This was all just such a pleasant surprise! Now for the dreadful countdown where I watch the clock waiting to get off work so I can get things ready and go to bed as early as possible every night.
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My name: Caitlin
His name: Kim
I live: Seattle, WA, USA
He lives: Townsville, QLD, Australia
My age: 27
His age: 27
Distance: No idea, I tried putting it into Google Maps and it told me to kayak to Hawaii and then Japan and then Australia.
Together since: September 2011, officially :P
How we met: We actually met on OkCupid (while I was still living in Australia), but both only looking for friends at the time. We started talking a lot on Gmail and Gchat and discovered we had a lot in common, so we enjoyed talking. At the time, I was sorta involved with this stoopid French guy who dumped me a few weeks after I started talking to Kim. I was lonely and sad so Kim came over one night to cheer me up and we ended up seeing Harry Potter and talking about books. Long story short, we developed a really close friendship and hung out most days and talked every day. This friendship eventually became a relationship (it just felt like the best thing to do, it was obvious we were meant for each other) and we have been very happy with each other. We got engaged on New Year's Day, after having discussed our futures and plans so much that it just seemed like the obvious thing to do (is this a trend in our relationship? It was pretty much the exact same way we started dating: admitting to each other that we pretty much already were.)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Well...when we lived 15 minutes away from each other, we saw each other every single day. Now that I've moved back to my hometown (my visa expired), we won't see each other again until his K-1 visa gets approved :(
Future plans: I just moved back to the US less than two weeks ago, so we're still majorly trying to adjust to being apart all of a sudden. He is planning on moving here and we're in the process of applying for a fiance visa for him. He is really excited to move here, which makes me so happy because I would hate to think that I was expecting him to give up a life that he didn't want to leave. He's actually really excited to get out of Townsville, and to start a life here with me and our two kitties (both of whom flew in last week and I have been spoiling rotten). Anyway, currently I am looking for a job, then I will look for a place for us to live, and he will eventually come over here and find a job as well. He also wants to go back to college and finish his bachelor's degree sometime in the next couple of years.
Anyway, I'm not happy about being in a LDR but I am going to make the best of it because he is worth it. I've never met a guy I can TRUST like I can trust him, and he loves me almost more than I deserve. I can't wait for him to get here. I also finally caved and got a big ol' smartphone so I can do gchat video chat with him wherever I happen to be.
I'm looking forward to trading stories, and hopefully getting some advice and encouragement not just about LDRs in general, but also the K-1 visa process, if anyone has done that before. Our application is still in the initial review and I'm really nervous about it but it's out of our hands for the time being :-/
His name: Kim
I live: Seattle, WA, USA
He lives: Townsville, QLD, Australia
My age: 27
His age: 27
Distance: No idea, I tried putting it into Google Maps and it told me to kayak to Hawaii and then Japan and then Australia.
Together since: September 2011, officially :P
How we met: We actually met on OkCupid (while I was still living in Australia), but both only looking for friends at the time. We started talking a lot on Gmail and Gchat and discovered we had a lot in common, so we enjoyed talking. At the time, I was sorta involved with this stoopid French guy who dumped me a few weeks after I started talking to Kim. I was lonely and sad so Kim came over one night to cheer me up and we ended up seeing Harry Potter and talking about books. Long story short, we developed a really close friendship and hung out most days and talked every day. This friendship eventually became a relationship (it just felt like the best thing to do, it was obvious we were meant for each other) and we have been very happy with each other. We got engaged on New Year's Day, after having discussed our futures and plans so much that it just seemed like the obvious thing to do (is this a trend in our relationship? It was pretty much the exact same way we started dating: admitting to each other that we pretty much already were.)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Well...when we lived 15 minutes away from each other, we saw each other every single day. Now that I've moved back to my hometown (my visa expired), we won't see each other again until his K-1 visa gets approved :(
Future plans: I just moved back to the US less than two weeks ago, so we're still majorly trying to adjust to being apart all of a sudden. He is planning on moving here and we're in the process of applying for a fiance visa for him. He is really excited to move here, which makes me so happy because I would hate to think that I was expecting him to give up a life that he didn't want to leave. He's actually really excited to get out of Townsville, and to start a life here with me and our two kitties (both of whom flew in last week and I have been spoiling rotten). Anyway, currently I am looking for a job, then I will look for a place for us to live, and he will eventually come over here and find a job as well. He also wants to go back to college and finish his bachelor's degree sometime in the next couple of years.
Anyway, I'm not happy about being in a LDR but I am going to make the best of it because he is worth it. I've never met a guy I can TRUST like I can trust him, and he loves me almost more than I deserve. I can't wait for him to get here. I also finally caved and got a big ol' smartphone so I can do gchat video chat with him wherever I happen to be.
I'm looking forward to trading stories, and hopefully getting some advice and encouragement not just about LDRs in general, but also the K-1 visa process, if anyone has done that before. Our application is still in the initial review and I'm really nervous about it but it's out of our hands for the time being :-/
- Mood:
depressed
Recap: I'm 30, in the UK, he's 33 in the USA.
So, the plan for his visit in April is still on. He wants to spend time with my dad - Dad had us round to dinner last time Scott was over which allowed him to meet my Nan, who sadly died last year. She had dementia and it settled her mind to know that "that American boy is a good husband to you", I like to think she could see what no one else could, what will happen in the future! Anyway, so Dad's planning to spend some of the weekend he's here with Scott and me. Mum didn't get to meet him last time as she was away, so we're going over to her place one of the other days that Scott's here to have a meal so she can get to see him and bombard him with questions!
There is also a Sci-Fi exhibition going on down the road from me, so we'll be going to that at some point during his stay, and the rest of the time, we'll find something to do! I need to make sure I have gotten all my uni work sorted so I don't have to do any while he's here - thank God for distance learning! It means I can get ahead on both courses and not miss anything by taking the time out :D
In less good news, it looks like Scott's grandfather is dying and so he's not sure how things will work out. Please keep him and his family in your prayers, should you happen to pray!
Now there are 27 days till he arrives and I'm just so excited! Plus I'll have officially quit smoking and finished my NRT by then so I'll be officially a non-smoker :D YAY!
Does anyone else have visits round the corner?
So, the plan for his visit in April is still on. He wants to spend time with my dad - Dad had us round to dinner last time Scott was over which allowed him to meet my Nan, who sadly died last year. She had dementia and it settled her mind to know that "that American boy is a good husband to you", I like to think she could see what no one else could, what will happen in the future! Anyway, so Dad's planning to spend some of the weekend he's here with Scott and me. Mum didn't get to meet him last time as she was away, so we're going over to her place one of the other days that Scott's here to have a meal so she can get to see him and bombard him with questions!
There is also a Sci-Fi exhibition going on down the road from me, so we'll be going to that at some point during his stay, and the rest of the time, we'll find something to do! I need to make sure I have gotten all my uni work sorted so I don't have to do any while he's here - thank God for distance learning! It means I can get ahead on both courses and not miss anything by taking the time out :D
In less good news, it looks like Scott's grandfather is dying and so he's not sure how things will work out. Please keep him and his family in your prayers, should you happen to pray!
Now there are 27 days till he arrives and I'm just so excited! Plus I'll have officially quit smoking and finished my NRT by then so I'll be officially a non-smoker :D YAY!
Does anyone else have visits round the corner?
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood:
giddy
Hey everyone, so I know it's been months since I've written anything so I'll give my stats here again:
Name: Nicole Mine (Gower) age: 22 That's right I got married!!!!!!!!!!! :) I may or may not have mentioned that before, but just in case there it is again :D. We got married in his country on Sept. 26, 2011 and I finally met his parents. They were both so nice we did have to have most everything translated, but one day I hope to sit down and speak with them directly. So that leads to stat number two my husbands name.
Husbands name: Sai Mine age: 21
we met each other: August 2009 in college and officially started dating Jan 22, 2010
time we have been apart: almost 2 years now
our future plans: We are currently in the middle of a visa process and are waiting for a scheduled interview date. It should be in another 2 months, so if all goes well and we are approved he will have his green card in 3-4 months tops, if not a new plan or I move to Thailand where Sai and I will work at a school. There's a lotttttttt of little details in this, but that's the ambiguous plan if this one fails.
Also I believe my last update mentioned the war in his country and his closeness too it and I thank everyone who prayed for us. It seems our prayers have been answered on that matter because a month or so later a peace treaty was signed and the ethnic armies quite fighting, not only this, but his country is making leaps forward at the moment, which in itself can be scary because to much change to quick can cause issues, but still praying for the best for his country and for our process.
I just can't believe that years are now months! Let's pray anyway :) I remember my first entry on here where I was lost and scared of time and waiting and how helpful this blog had been to me how other peoples stories of success kept me going forward and peoples words of advice. I hope very soon that I will no longer need to look at this as comfort and help and hope, but I hope that I can be someone else's comfort and hope. I'll try to remember updating a little more often than this next time. :P
Name: Nicole Mine (Gower) age: 22 That's right I got married!!!!!!!!!!! :) I may or may not have mentioned that before, but just in case there it is again :D. We got married in his country on Sept. 26, 2011 and I finally met his parents. They were both so nice we did have to have most everything translated, but one day I hope to sit down and speak with them directly. So that leads to stat number two my husbands name.
Husbands name: Sai Mine age: 21
we met each other: August 2009 in college and officially started dating Jan 22, 2010
time we have been apart: almost 2 years now
our future plans: We are currently in the middle of a visa process and are waiting for a scheduled interview date. It should be in another 2 months, so if all goes well and we are approved he will have his green card in 3-4 months tops, if not a new plan or I move to Thailand where Sai and I will work at a school. There's a lotttttttt of little details in this, but that's the ambiguous plan if this one fails.
Also I believe my last update mentioned the war in his country and his closeness too it and I thank everyone who prayed for us. It seems our prayers have been answered on that matter because a month or so later a peace treaty was signed and the ethnic armies quite fighting, not only this, but his country is making leaps forward at the moment, which in itself can be scary because to much change to quick can cause issues, but still praying for the best for his country and for our process.
I just can't believe that years are now months! Let's pray anyway :) I remember my first entry on here where I was lost and scared of time and waiting and how helpful this blog had been to me how other peoples stories of success kept me going forward and peoples words of advice. I hope very soon that I will no longer need to look at this as comfort and help and hope, but I hope that I can be someone else's comfort and hope. I'll try to remember updating a little more often than this next time. :P
- Mood:
happy
Recap: I'm 30 in the UK, he's 33 in the USA
I just spoke to Scott and he's finally nailed down a date, he's coming on the 12th April and staying till the 18th and in his words he just "wants to chill and hang out and stuff" :D Last time he was here, we did a lot of touristy stuff, so this time he just wants to spend time with me :D
I've started the countdown and it's just over 7 weeks!!! To be exact it's 7 weeks and 4 days!!!
Hopefully, he'll be able to do some job interviews for that position he was offered while he's over :D
YAYAYAYAYAY!!!
I just spoke to Scott and he's finally nailed down a date, he's coming on the 12th April and staying till the 18th and in his words he just "wants to chill and hang out and stuff" :D Last time he was here, we did a lot of touristy stuff, so this time he just wants to spend time with me :D
I've started the countdown and it's just over 7 weeks!!! To be exact it's 7 weeks and 4 days!!!
Hopefully, he'll be able to do some job interviews for that position he was offered while he's over :D
YAYAYAYAYAY!!!
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood: excited
My name: Bethany
His/Her name: Eddie
I live: Minnesota
He/She lives: Georgia
My age: 21
His/Her age: 26
Distance: ~2200 miles
Together since: Feb 9th
How we met: We've yet to meet in person, we've been talking online, texting, and calling for a while and started calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend earlier this month.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): He's coming up here for the first time next month :D
Future plans: He's planning on transferring colleges to be closer next year, possibly move in together shortly after that if all goes well.
Share some photos: No pictures of us together yet...give me a couple weeks and I can post some :D
Technically, you could say we're only apart because of college, but since we only recently started thinking this could become serious, so we are long distance until we're sure where it's going.
His/Her name: Eddie
I live: Minnesota
He/She lives: Georgia
My age: 21
His/Her age: 26
Distance: ~2200 miles
Together since: Feb 9th
How we met: We've yet to meet in person, we've been talking online, texting, and calling for a while and started calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend earlier this month.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): He's coming up here for the first time next month :D
Future plans: He's planning on transferring colleges to be closer next year, possibly move in together shortly after that if all goes well.
Share some photos: No pictures of us together yet...give me a couple weeks and I can post some :D
Technically, you could say we're only apart because of college, but since we only recently started thinking this could become serious, so we are long distance until we're sure where it's going.
.... "No more long distance relationships" Ooops
My name: Jenny
His/Her name: Stefan
I live: London,Uk
He/She lives: Netherlands
My age: 25
His/Her age: Soon to be 22
Distance: ... I don't even know.. there's a sea between us =(
Together since: January 3rd
How we met: I spent Christmas with my best friend and her family and had to stay with her mum because Stefan was going to stay to join in the Christmassy things (My best friend's family have a habit of adopting everyone). We argued about who our adopted mum loved more, I bit him within 10 mins of knowing him and it just kinda went from there. xD
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Reallly reallly don't know at the moment. We're just taking it as it comes. Hopefully the next time I see him is for our birthdays in April.
Future plans: I graduate this year, so I shall be moving out and hopefully getting a house and he'll be joining me.
Share some photos: I don't have any where I don't look stupid =p
My name: Jenny
His/Her name: Stefan
I live: London,Uk
He/She lives: Netherlands
My age: 25
His/Her age: Soon to be 22
Distance: ... I don't even know.. there's a sea between us =(
Together since: January 3rd
How we met: I spent Christmas with my best friend and her family and had to stay with her mum because Stefan was going to stay to join in the Christmassy things (My best friend's family have a habit of adopting everyone). We argued about who our adopted mum loved more, I bit him within 10 mins of knowing him and it just kinda went from there. xD
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Reallly reallly don't know at the moment. We're just taking it as it comes. Hopefully the next time I see him is for our birthdays in April.
Future plans: I graduate this year, so I shall be moving out and hopefully getting a house and he'll be joining me.
Share some photos: I don't have any where I don't look stupid =p
My name: Louise
His/Her name: Brett
I live: Sweden
He/She lives: Louisiana, USA
My age: 20
His/Her age: Soon to be 23
Distance: ... I don't even want to look it up :/
Together since: Feb 4th
How we met: Well, we met on myspace a few years back, and got together. That was how I found this community. Our relationship ended and now, after a few years, we're back together again.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): We've never met, but I'm hoping that we will sometime this year.
Future plans: I don't want to make any major plans just yet. The main goal right now is to just.. meet.
Share some photos: I'm gonna pass on this one for now. Got no pics of us together and.. I don't know if he'd want me to post pictures of him. Haha. And it'd feel weird to only post pictures of myself.
His/Her name: Brett
I live: Sweden
He/She lives: Louisiana, USA
My age: 20
His/Her age: Soon to be 23
Distance: ... I don't even want to look it up :/
Together since: Feb 4th
How we met: Well, we met on myspace a few years back, and got together. That was how I found this community. Our relationship ended and now, after a few years, we're back together again.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): We've never met, but I'm hoping that we will sometime this year.
Future plans: I don't want to make any major plans just yet. The main goal right now is to just.. meet.
Share some photos: I'm gonna pass on this one for now. Got no pics of us together and.. I don't know if he'd want me to post pictures of him. Haha. And it'd feel weird to only post pictures of myself.
Hello again! I used to be a member of this community about four years ago. Kinda crazy to think I was a 15-year-old dating another 15-year-old boy who lived in NC (me in NY), but hey, it happened, it's over, and now I am the one in NC!
Max and I were talking earlier about how badly we wish we could live together, and I thought of this community. Never thought I'd be in another LDR, but I'm glad to be back here!
My name: Julia
His/Her name: Max
I live: North Carolina
He/She lives: Upstate New York (20 minutes from Canada!)
My age: 18
His/Her age: 19 (20 on Valentine's day...he's a cupid-baby)
Distance: 802 miles~ 14 hours by car, or a long day of flight-exchanging
Together since: August 4th, 2009
How we met: We first met through one of my good friends (they're neighbors), back when I was in my first LDR. After a year and a summer of constant hanging out and sneaking out to drive with him places, the inevitable happened..and we've been together ever since! =)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Every couple of months while we're away at school. He came to visit me during first semester, and the next time I'll see him is in March.
Future plans: We like to let everything unfold as time goes on. Obviously living together eventually would be ideal, but who knows what will happen by then? We surely don't know, so we're taking everything as it comes.
Share some photos:
Because I have no idea how to resize these things, check out a bunch of pictures under the cut!
( cheesy video under the cut! )
Max and I were talking earlier about how badly we wish we could live together, and I thought of this community. Never thought I'd be in another LDR, but I'm glad to be back here!
My name: Julia
His/Her name: Max
I live: North Carolina
He/She lives: Upstate New York (20 minutes from Canada!)
My age: 18
His/Her age: 19 (20 on Valentine's day...he's a cupid-baby)
Distance: 802 miles~ 14 hours by car, or a long day of flight-exchanging
Together since: August 4th, 2009
How we met: We first met through one of my good friends (they're neighbors), back when I was in my first LDR. After a year and a summer of constant hanging out and sneaking out to drive with him places, the inevitable happened..and we've been together ever since! =)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Every couple of months while we're away at school. He came to visit me during first semester, and the next time I'll see him is in March.
Future plans: We like to let everything unfold as time goes on. Obviously living together eventually would be ideal, but who knows what will happen by then? We surely don't know, so we're taking everything as it comes.
Share some photos:
Because I have no idea how to resize these things, check out a bunch of pictures under the cut!
( cheesy video under the cut! )
Recap: I'm 30, in the UK, he's 33, in the USA.
I can't quite believe the phone call I just had. I've been feeling crappy the past couple days, not just because I have a cold turning into a chest infection, but also because it's been a long time since I saw Scott in person and he's miserable where he is and I'm not much better here. Anyway, he's been putting up his CV and such on websites over here and I've been applying for jobs or at least registering his interest.
Then today, my mobile rang, I didn't recognise the number so didn't hide how shit I feel health wise and they asked to speak to Scott. I told them they could speak to me because Scott is in the USA and it turns out.....
.....THEY WANT TO OFFER HIM A JOB!!!!
They said they should be able to sponsor him and just wanted to get the details so they had an idea of why he was coming to the UK and whether he planned to move before he got a job or after and OMG, he could be moving here!!! They're gonna call back later with more info and I gave them Scott's email so he may wake up to a job offer :D
YAY!!! The universe is finally going right for us!
I can't quite believe the phone call I just had. I've been feeling crappy the past couple days, not just because I have a cold turning into a chest infection, but also because it's been a long time since I saw Scott in person and he's miserable where he is and I'm not much better here. Anyway, he's been putting up his CV and such on websites over here and I've been applying for jobs or at least registering his interest.
Then today, my mobile rang, I didn't recognise the number so didn't hide how shit I feel health wise and they asked to speak to Scott. I told them they could speak to me because Scott is in the USA and it turns out.....
.....THEY WANT TO OFFER HIM A JOB!!!!
They said they should be able to sponsor him and just wanted to get the details so they had an idea of why he was coming to the UK and whether he planned to move before he got a job or after and OMG, he could be moving here!!! They're gonna call back later with more info and I gave them Scott's email so he may wake up to a job offer :D
YAY!!! The universe is finally going right for us!
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood: ecstatic
Hi, I was thinking about all those friending memes you see around LJ and had also just made a post to LFA saying how great it was to go somewhere and know that people understood the dramas, the highs and the lows that came with LDR's and I thought, "wouldn't it be nice to have more of those people on my flist?" So here is, a friending post!
(I hope this is okay with the mods, if not, please feel free to delete!)
So, here's how it'll work!
Simple copy/paste from the box below and fill in the details, with as much or as little detail as you'd like. Post it as a comment, and have a look at other people and add those who you think you'd get on with. We could all do with people who know the frustrations (and excitement) of being in an LDR!
Ready! GO!
(I hope this is okay with the mods, if not, please feel free to delete!)
So, here's how it'll work!
Simple copy/paste from the box below and fill in the details, with as much or as little detail as you'd like. Post it as a comment, and have a look at other people and add those who you think you'd get on with. We could all do with people who know the frustrations (and excitement) of being in an LDR!
Ready! GO!
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood:
hopeful
Recap: I'm 30 in the UK, he's 33 in the USA.
So, we've been talking a lot more about his upcoming visit and he's been applying for jobs here in the hope of finding one that will sponsor a visa and enable us to close the distance. I know we're doing all we can to get together in the same country and I know we talk every day whether it's through text or on the phone or even email, but...it's been over a year since I last saw him, the hope was that last year he'd have enough holiday days to be able to come over, or at least that we'd spend our birthday together (both born Jan 6th) but that didn't happen and now we're into February and he's talking about visiting soon, at the latest May time, and then maybe again for Christmas/New Year/Birthday in 2013, but *sigh* I just miss him, I miss falling asleep next to him, miss coming down stairs and seeing him laid out on the couch, miss watching him play with Darla (she's my best friend's daughter, her and her mum live with me) I miss watching him when he talks, he makes the cutest expressions! I just miss him period.
I knew you would all understand...
So, we've been talking a lot more about his upcoming visit and he's been applying for jobs here in the hope of finding one that will sponsor a visa and enable us to close the distance. I know we're doing all we can to get together in the same country and I know we talk every day whether it's through text or on the phone or even email, but...it's been over a year since I last saw him, the hope was that last year he'd have enough holiday days to be able to come over, or at least that we'd spend our birthday together (both born Jan 6th) but that didn't happen and now we're into February and he's talking about visiting soon, at the latest May time, and then maybe again for Christmas/New Year/Birthday in 2013, but *sigh* I just miss him, I miss falling asleep next to him, miss coming down stairs and seeing him laid out on the couch, miss watching him play with Darla (she's my best friend's daughter, her and her mum live with me) I miss watching him when he talks, he makes the cutest expressions! I just miss him period.
I knew you would all understand...
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood: lonely
My name: Rhiannon, but I'm mostly called Rika
His/Her name: Will
I live: Buffalo, NY
He/She lives: Sheffield, England, UK
My age: 22
His/Her age: 24
Distance: Around 3,400 miles.
Together since: June 6th, 2009
How we met: We met and became friends on OtakuBoards, a message board site. I was 16 and he had just turned 18. We have kept in contact ever since.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): Once a year. First time was March 2010, second was August 2011, and we're hoping the third will be sometime this fall/winter.
Future plans: Things have gotten pretty serious for us. For Christmas this year, we bought each other promise rings as the physical reminder of our commitment to each other. Although it’s never formally happened as a proposal, we have agreed that we would like to get married. Because of economic circumstances and opportunities we each have, I have decided that I would like to make the move to England hopefully by next year. I’ve just graduated from college with a bachelor’s degree and so I’m hoping that this year will be a year of preparation for us. One reason I joined this group was for advice and to see if anyone was or is in a situation like ours. I look forward to making new friends! :)
Pictures:
( (One for now.) )[Recap: He's in Indianapolis, I'm in east TN.]
So! I only post here sporadically, but I thought we might could use more happy news. Christopher and I have actually set a date for our wedding!
We got engaged, formally, months and months ago but never really got around to deciding exactly when we would get married. But now, I'm approved to graduate in May and I'm working on getting into grad schools close to him so we've set a date for March 27, 2014. If things don't go quite as planned, our back-up date is March 4, 2015. The first is the 5th year anniversary from when we met online and the second is the 5th year anniversary from when we met in person.
So, while I can't yet say that we are a success story, we're still working on it.
So! I only post here sporadically, but I thought we might could use more happy news. Christopher and I have actually set a date for our wedding!
We got engaged, formally, months and months ago but never really got around to deciding exactly when we would get married. But now, I'm approved to graduate in May and I'm working on getting into grad schools close to him so we've set a date for March 27, 2014. If things don't go quite as planned, our back-up date is March 4, 2015. The first is the 5th year anniversary from when we met online and the second is the 5th year anniversary from when we met in person.
So, while I can't yet say that we are a success story, we're still working on it.
- Mood: excited
Recap: I'm 30, he's 33, I live in the UK, he lives in the USA.
We haven't seen each other since the photo in my icon was taken, he came for 5 lovely days back in September 2010 and although there were plans for last year, they never really made it into anything solid. Anyway, he talked about coming here in September 2012, and I was resigned to the fact that it would be a while before I saw him again, we talk through the week through emails and text and we phone each other every weekend to save costs for both of us.
We were emailing last week and he mentioned that he missed England and me and wanted to come sooner, maybe March time, so although nothing was concrete I did get a little excited, but then he said at the weekend that his plans would "have to move back 4 weeks" due to money issues and although I was disappointed, I understood, then we were emailing this week and I said something about March/April visit and a package I am compiling for him and he said something like "don't post it, I'll be there soon enough to collect it" I said "oh yeah, March/April right?" and he said "I'll be there sooner than you realise!"
EEK!!! I'm going to see him again :D I think he might try to surprise me by telling my best friend when to expect him so she can get things ready without telling me :D
In other LDR news, I play the Ukulele and did him a DVD for Christmas/Birthday (we're both Jan 6th babies!) of theme songs and such that he liked as well as an original song I wrote for him and he loved it :D
So, tell me about your upcoming visits and any cool gifts you've received/given?
We haven't seen each other since the photo in my icon was taken, he came for 5 lovely days back in September 2010 and although there were plans for last year, they never really made it into anything solid. Anyway, he talked about coming here in September 2012, and I was resigned to the fact that it would be a while before I saw him again, we talk through the week through emails and text and we phone each other every weekend to save costs for both of us.
We were emailing last week and he mentioned that he missed England and me and wanted to come sooner, maybe March time, so although nothing was concrete I did get a little excited, but then he said at the weekend that his plans would "have to move back 4 weeks" due to money issues and although I was disappointed, I understood, then we were emailing this week and I said something about March/April visit and a package I am compiling for him and he said something like "don't post it, I'll be there soon enough to collect it" I said "oh yeah, March/April right?" and he said "I'll be there sooner than you realise!"
EEK!!! I'm going to see him again :D I think he might try to surprise me by telling my best friend when to expect him so she can get things ready without telling me :D
In other LDR news, I play the Ukulele and did him a DVD for Christmas/Birthday (we're both Jan 6th babies!) of theme songs and such that he liked as well as an original song I wrote for him and he loved it :D
So, tell me about your upcoming visits and any cool gifts you've received/given?
- Location:Swindon, UK
- Mood:
bouncy
I know there are a good number of you in this community who have moved overseas to be with your lovers. If you're among this group, can you please let me know? I'd love to talk to you. I'm stressing out about several things and could really use some conversations with others who've gone through this already.
Thank you :)
These are the main questions that I have:
These are the questions I asked to the previous commenter. Could you also answer, please? :)
-Since YOU were the one to move, you were the one to also make sacrifices. Do you ever feel any sort of resentment due to these sacrifices?
-Did you know anyone other than your SO in the country you moved to? If not, did you ever feel a great deal of stress knowing that you were relying very heavily on your SO?
-Is there a big language/cultural barrier? If so, how are you dealing with this?
Thank you :)
These are the main questions that I have:
These are the questions I asked to the previous commenter. Could you also answer, please? :)
-Since YOU were the one to move, you were the one to also make sacrifices. Do you ever feel any sort of resentment due to these sacrifices?
-Did you know anyone other than your SO in the country you moved to? If not, did you ever feel a great deal of stress knowing that you were relying very heavily on your SO?
-Is there a big language/cultural barrier? If so, how are you dealing with this?
Hello there. I am ashamed, I completely forgot about this wonderful community! I only posted once, my intro post: http://loversfaraway.livejournal.com/294
So, here's an update of life:
Things have been going along at mostly the same pace for a while for Craige and I. He's been paying for train tickets to visit him every few months or so. It varies, depending upon plans and money, most of the time it usually ends up being longer. I started out staying a few weeks, and that was too short of a time to be with each other. So, I started planning to stay a month at a time, and was doing that for a bit. A few summers ago, Craige, his mom and aunt managed to come up to my house to stay for a few days. I was ecstatic! I could finally show him all the stuff around town I told him about, and we made sure it was for the weekend in August that a fair comes to town, because I always told him how much I loved it when I was a kid. Oh! I just remembered I have pics of that. Hold on, let me fetch them.
( Caution: Picspam ahead! )
Over the past few years, he and I have had many adventures. If you guys are interested, there are some videos of us on said adventures on my YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/IllyriaGodKi
Just hit the 'more videos' thing to see most of them.
( More recently... )
Whoo, that was long, wasn't it? Well, there you have it, thanks for taking the time to read., I shall end with some more pics of some of our various adventures:
( Picspam, Second Wave )
So, here's an update of life:
Things have been going along at mostly the same pace for a while for Craige and I. He's been paying for train tickets to visit him every few months or so. It varies, depending upon plans and money, most of the time it usually ends up being longer. I started out staying a few weeks, and that was too short of a time to be with each other. So, I started planning to stay a month at a time, and was doing that for a bit. A few summers ago, Craige, his mom and aunt managed to come up to my house to stay for a few days. I was ecstatic! I could finally show him all the stuff around town I told him about, and we made sure it was for the weekend in August that a fair comes to town, because I always told him how much I loved it when I was a kid. Oh! I just remembered I have pics of that. Hold on, let me fetch them.
( Caution: Picspam ahead! )
Over the past few years, he and I have had many adventures. If you guys are interested, there are some videos of us on said adventures on my YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/IllyriaGodKi
Just hit the 'more videos' thing to see most of them.
( More recently... )
Whoo, that was long, wasn't it? Well, there you have it, thanks for taking the time to read., I shall end with some more pics of some of our various adventures:
( Picspam, Second Wave )
- Location:Wells, New York
- Mood:
loved
I wasn't too active in this community, but I'm happy to report that I won't need to be here any longer. as of May, I moved to Seattle to live with my beloved :) long distance no longer!
I'm going to come off as paranoid and crazy, but I have to ask.
Is the fact that my boyfriend is less talkative (emailing me a lot less, texting a lot less, communicating a lot less in general) a sign that he's losing interest? It's been like this for almost 2 weeks (since he left after spending 3 weeks with me).
I mean, I know he's been with family for the holidays, and could be busy because of that, but still. I just sense that something is different.
He did suggest Skyping tomorrow, so I guess he does want to talk, but now I'm worrying a bit that he's going to use this Skype session to bring up some bad news? :(
If all goes well, and I still feel this way a day or two after Skyping, I plan on bringing something up. I have an email written out, and it starts: "I'm going to just come right out and say it...are you losing interest in me? I just feel that you've been quiet, and I'm not used to this. I just feel that there's been a change in our communication, and I just want to see if everything's alright." Does that sound alright?
Is the fact that my boyfriend is less talkative (emailing me a lot less, texting a lot less, communicating a lot less in general) a sign that he's losing interest? It's been like this for almost 2 weeks (since he left after spending 3 weeks with me).
I mean, I know he's been with family for the holidays, and could be busy because of that, but still. I just sense that something is different.
He did suggest Skyping tomorrow, so I guess he does want to talk, but now I'm worrying a bit that he's going to use this Skype session to bring up some bad news? :(
If all goes well, and I still feel this way a day or two after Skyping, I plan on bringing something up. I have an email written out, and it starts: "I'm going to just come right out and say it...are you losing interest in me? I just feel that you've been quiet, and I'm not used to this. I just feel that there's been a change in our communication, and I just want to see if everything's alright." Does that sound alright?
Hi everyone. I decided to join this community because like many of you, I'm in a LDR. It's my second one, but.. It's been awhile & now I'm older & more wiser. Any advice on how to get through the days without your SO? Especially with different time zones? [6 hours apart.]
Hello everyone, I was looking for some quick advice on currency exchange.
I went to Australia from the united states to see my partner. I went with 300 dollars US and got like 260 AU (it was a month ago so I'm not sure the exact exchange) which I expected because our US dollar is worth less than the AU. But then I came back to the united states with 40AU and got only 18 dollars back.
I understand that there are fees to exchange the currency but I was kinda expecting that I would get more US money since the AU is worth more.
So my question is, is it more beneficial to exchange my money to AU in an American airport. Then exchange from AU to US, inside the Australian airport. Is there a difference?
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Every time you and your SO reunite after months apart, is the reunion FULL of romance?
My SO just left after being together for 3 weeks. It was a great time, but overall, I'm getting the sense that it lacked some kind of spark. It's a bit hard to verbalize. Maybe it's because I'm really a hopeless romantic and sensitive/emotional, and feel that reunions should be exactly how they are in movies :)
We've been together for well over a year now and have been able to meet up only every 3-4 months, so maybe it's because we've reached a different level in our relationship vs the giddy, honeymoon-phase level?
Now my over-analytical side is wondering if things are still good between us, and whether we can last once we go short distance (we're looking at sometime in Summer 2012).
My SO just left after being together for 3 weeks. It was a great time, but overall, I'm getting the sense that it lacked some kind of spark. It's a bit hard to verbalize. Maybe it's because I'm really a hopeless romantic and sensitive/emotional, and feel that reunions should be exactly how they are in movies :)
We've been together for well over a year now and have been able to meet up only every 3-4 months, so maybe it's because we've reached a different level in our relationship vs the giddy, honeymoon-phase level?
Now my over-analytical side is wondering if things are still good between us, and whether we can last once we go short distance (we're looking at sometime in Summer 2012).
So I applied for a transfer from my current program to another program closer to home. It would have been a six hour drive home to see my family (and boyfriend) instead of 18hrs+. Found out that I wasn't selected and I'm just feeling a little bummed. I called my boyfriend and let him know I wouldn't be moving closer (at least not this semester) and he was bummed too. I know this is what I want to do with my life and therefore the distance is "worth it" in a sense. And even though our first foray into long distance has been a million times better than I would have ever expected, it hasn't been easy. It's been lonely and heart-wrenching. And that's why I came here to vent - because I know you all know how I feel. Thanks for listening!
Forgive me for pimping, but I saw this and immediately thought of this community..
http://www.etsy.com/listing/87191968/cu
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hello,
can anyone recommend me nice movies with a long distance thematics? I´ve seen Going the distance and loved that one :D
Or some nice movies about traveling, nice exterior scenes and best would be movies where some part of plot is happening in Netherlands :)
thank you lots!
Maru
can anyone recommend me nice movies with a long distance thematics? I´ve seen Going the distance and loved that one :D
Or some nice movies about traveling, nice exterior scenes and best would be movies where some part of plot is happening in Netherlands :)
thank you lots!
Maru
Found this song that truly relates to most of the relationships here. The lyrics are just lovely~
Good day to all! :)
Good day to all! :)
So my boyfriend and I met up for the long weekend last weekend. It was a lot of driving for so short a visit but it was worth it to see him again so “soon.” Seeing him is bittersweet, though, because it just reminds me what we had and how we were together. (We went from six years of SD to LD; kind of a flip-flopped situation from a lot of you.) I’ll see him again when I’m on Christmas break - only one month away! - for a bit more than two weeks. Two weeks seems positively luxurious!
The biggest dilemma is where to stay. I know I’ll likely spend a couple of nights at my parents house, but he isn’t allowed to stay over (traditionalist parents, FTW!). He has a room with a family that we’re both pretty close to, and they’ve made it clear to me and him that I’m welcome any time. Likely our best bet for snuggling but (and yes I will be a priss for a moment), it’s a pretty messy house than can be borderline gross at times. I’ve stayed over a couple of nights before and I’d gladly stay there to be with him but urg. I wish there were something better! My sister may let us use her apartment for a night or two, though, so that would be nice.
Anyway, just wanted to toss out my own personal update. Hope all is well with the rest of you!
My name: Melony
His/Her name: Jeramy
I live: Arkansas
He/She lives: Los Angeles, CA
My age: 34
His/Her age: 23
Distance: Over 1,000 miles
Together since: Nov. 6, 2011
How we met: I go to college with his brother. So we met through him.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): So far we haven't gotten to see each other. But are making plans for March 2012.
Future plans: Making plans for March 2012. His family lives in Florida, which is closer and he goes there once a year. So whenever he is there, I can hopefully make it.
Share some photos: ( Skype is our life )
His/Her name: Jeramy
I live: Arkansas
He/She lives: Los Angeles, CA
My age: 34
His/Her age: 23
Distance: Over 1,000 miles
Together since: Nov. 6, 2011
How we met: I go to college with his brother. So we met through him.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): So far we haven't gotten to see each other. But are making plans for March 2012.
Future plans: Making plans for March 2012. His family lives in Florida, which is closer and he goes there once a year. So whenever he is there, I can hopefully make it.
Share some photos: ( Skype is our life )
Well this is not nearly as happy as my previous message. I really thought that we were on the downhill side of things...the easy part...just a few more months. Maybe it still is, but there is a war in Sai's hometown where he is living. It broke out right after I left and is only getting worse. A bomb went off in his hometown and yesterday I went to call and he whispered he couldn't talk that something was happening. The next day I found out him and his family along with some neighbors had fled there houses that night. He has no choice but to stay there, but he is in danger and with this stupid 2 year stipulation that is not up yet and we cannot get waived we have to wait at least 6 more months. Now the short 6 months seems like an eternity of worry and fear. What if he gets shot or a bomb goes off to close? He says he hears gun shots at night and we've looked at all the visas that we could try to get him back here. The thing is if he leaves now he'd still have to go back and wars get worse before they get better. It has just begun. I'm scared and I miss him. I call him every day and pray he will pick up and so far he has, but I worry all the time and as much as people tell me it's not in my hands it's in Gods and I should not worry about what I cannot do anything about. It's just not that easy. Nobody understands this. Even I cannot comprehend the fact that he can hear the guns and bombs and see soldiers walking around his town. I've never seen a war and I've certainly never seen a machine gun in my life until I went there to see him. I know nobody on here can help me or do anything, but it's nothing anybody else can even start to understand. It's like he is at war, but he never joined the army.
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My long distance boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We were together for 3 years. He said that he might not be in love with me anymore. This took me by surprise, because things were going so well. I made plans to move to NY in 8 months. That's when I graduate. Anyways, at the end of the call he said nevermind what I said. I'm sorry. Just give me some space. He said he's under stress, because his family business is going down hill & they are losing their apartment in the city. The good thing is that is family has a home further upstate. Still I know it must be hard losing their apt. So I gave him his space. A few days later, I lost one of my friends from school. I was broken. He heard about it by text. All I got was my condolences on fb. No call. :( He also removed me from his in a relationship status. I'm still his friend on there, but he just removed me as his gf. Not sure when he did this, because I avoided his page. He still hasn't called me til this day. I sent an email a few days ago, saying hope you're doing well. Just short and simple. No mention of the breakup. He said things are worse, and he is under stress. He said he would talk to me later. It hurts that he hasn't picked up the phone to clear the air. He is treating me like a stranger, and this behavior is not like him at all. He was always so kind to me and my family. I know that my chances aren't good, but I just want that phone call. I did nothing to deserve this cold treatment. Before this happened, I was planning to visit him. I did everything for him. I wanted him to be the one. I'm 30 years old, and I'm not getting younger. I'm trying to get my life together. Should I call him? Or continue waiting? I just want some healing. I can't go on wondering like this. Hurts too much.
- Mood: depressed
I just had to share my excitement. I have just a few weeks left (can't say exactly when) until my fiance comes home! This past six months has been pretty hard on me. My new car had two flat tires, and a headlight out. His car had a flat tire, a oil leak a headlight out and needed inspected. Our house flooded, I experience my first ever earth quake and we had a hurricane (though that's not new here). Meanwhile, my mom moved in with me, his parents briefly hated me and at one point my friends abandoned me for several weeks. I have worked back stage on two different plays. I worked 60 hours a week all summer and then took a big pay cut once summer ended. I feel like maybe god was challenging me. Making sure I was ready for our life together. Well, I don't want to jinx myself, but I survived. I think I can deal with a few more weeks if I can deal with all of that.
Even more exciting than the fact that he will be home soon is that we will be married less than a month after his return! That's right, I also planned a wedding during this deployment. Of course, he will still be going out to sea for a while. We will be negotiating orders for shore duty this month. Last time, we still got sea duty. This time, we're determined to get shore. If he gets shore he will get to come home to me every day for at least a couple of years. Of course, that wouldn't start until August, but either way I'm happy to see him again when he gets back, and I'm happy that we have a chance at being a normal married couple for th first few years of our marriage. Anyway, I just wanted to update you guys on what's going on in my life though I don't think I have posted here very often.
Even more exciting than the fact that he will be home soon is that we will be married less than a month after his return! That's right, I also planned a wedding during this deployment. Of course, he will still be going out to sea for a while. We will be negotiating orders for shore duty this month. Last time, we still got sea duty. This time, we're determined to get shore. If he gets shore he will get to come home to me every day for at least a couple of years. Of course, that wouldn't start until August, but either way I'm happy to see him again when he gets back, and I'm happy that we have a chance at being a normal married couple for th first few years of our marriage. Anyway, I just wanted to update you guys on what's going on in my life though I don't think I have posted here very often.
no he is not back yet, but if the whole process goes well in May or June he will be, but we did get married! I just got back from seeing him and everything went smoothly and I'm happy about it. I already changed my drivers license to my new last name. I'm super happy about it. Now just one more long wait and an interview and he should be back. :D I'm sure we will still have our challenges but right now I'm just happy to keep saying I'm his wife and he's my husband :P
- Mood: excited
Last night on the phone I got my first real sense that the distance is becoming tough for my boyfriend. He was on the way back from visiting mutual friends and mentioned how it was kind of sad without me there. It wasn't that he said much about his feelings (he's generally pretty stoic about things) but I just got the sense that he was in a kind of mopey place last night. He acknowledged that the distance sucks, which was the first time he'd actually said something of that sort and I just felt helpless. I feel guilty about not being there, although it really isn't a conscious choice on my part and I feel sort of suspended in time. It's almost like I think it'll be done soon, and in a sense it will (when I go home for winter and summer breaks) but it's another three years. And I can't pretend like it isn't upsetting to see that stretched out ahead of me because being away from him is slowly driving me nuts. I see my future with this guy and part of me feels like I'm wasting that time away from him. Even though I'm doing the only other thing that could keep me from him, it still feels that way.
Anyway. I have a three day weekend coming up in a few weeks and I was thinking of asking my boyfriend to meet me half way - about an eight hour drive for each of us minimum. I texted him and mentioned it and he said something along the lines of that he loves and misses me but he didn't want to put me through the stress of getting there and the cost of either gas or plane tickets. Which I know is his way of being thoughtful but it just kind of deflated me. It makes me feel guilty about asking him to even meet me half way because that's time and money on his end, too. And then I just feel sad that it'll still be another eight weeks until I see him again. Which sounds stupid to those of you who see each other far less frequently, but I can't help but feel that way.
I'm sorry this is so rambly and pathetic. I just don't have anyone else to listen :P
Anyway. I have a three day weekend coming up in a few weeks and I was thinking of asking my boyfriend to meet me half way - about an eight hour drive for each of us minimum. I texted him and mentioned it and he said something along the lines of that he loves and misses me but he didn't want to put me through the stress of getting there and the cost of either gas or plane tickets. Which I know is his way of being thoughtful but it just kind of deflated me. It makes me feel guilty about asking him to even meet me half way because that's time and money on his end, too. And then I just feel sad that it'll still be another eight weeks until I see him again. Which sounds stupid to those of you who see each other far less frequently, but I can't help but feel that way.
I'm sorry this is so rambly and pathetic. I just don't have anyone else to listen :P
So D called me today, earlier than usual. It set my antennae aquiver. Turns out (after a bit of hemming and hawing on his part), he rolled his ankle really badly playing basketball last night and had to call out of work today because it hurt so badly to walk. He hadn't rested, elevated or iced it, either, just popped some Advil and taken it kind of easy for the day. He's had problems with his ankles rolling while playing before but got some nice braces and they seemed to help. The one night he didn't wear the brace for the non-bad ankle, he rolls it.
I got my sister to send me the number for her orthopedist so I can send it to him and hopefully coax him to get his butt over there. But I really hate not being able to be there and make him rest and ice his ankle. -sigh- Sorry this isn't much of a post, I just had to let out the frustration of not being able to be with him and make sure he's alright.
I got my sister to send me the number for her orthopedist so I can send it to him and hopefully coax him to get his butt over there. But I really hate not being able to be there and make him rest and ice his ankle. -sigh- Sorry this isn't much of a post, I just had to let out the frustration of not being able to be with him and make sure he's alright.
Boyfriend arrives in six days and I'm so excited. He'll be here Friday night and leave Monday night. I'm going to take the time to look up a couple of low-key things we can do while he's here as well as clean the house (including clean sheets and towels) and stock the fridge. I also have a mini surprise for him - the picture from my coating ceremony (us together) that the school just got back to us. He hasn't seen it yet and I'm going to give him a copy :)
What is your pre-SO arrival or meet-up ritual?
What is your pre-SO arrival or meet-up ritual?
Well, there may be hope yet. He hasn't completely ruled out coming here to visit in December (I really hope he will). The feelings are there and we are both taking the time to work in our own issues and selves right now but ... he does think that when we get back together we will be stronger for this.
I do think this relationship is worth fighting for but I'm realistic enough to know that it is what is right now. It is hard to be "broken" up but I think we have a good dialogue open and I think I will be doing a lot of thinking and trying to just deal with him and myself with loving kindness.
I do think this relationship is worth fighting for but I'm realistic enough to know that it is what is right now. It is hard to be "broken" up but I think we have a good dialogue open and I think I will be doing a lot of thinking and trying to just deal with him and myself with loving kindness.
So, I'd agree to take the semester off of school to go and visit Dave for two months, because 1)its not going to cost me anything and 2) why not. The thing is, traveling has always stressed me out. Specifically, cross border traveling has always made me stressed. I know that you can go for up to 6 months at a time, and I'm going for oct/nov and then coming back to spend christmas with my mom.
I'm a bit worried that i'll get harassed at the border because even though I've registered for spring courses;
1. I have to give up the space that I'm renting, I can't afford to pay rent on space I'm not using. My ID has my mom's address on it, because thats the address I use for pretty much anything important.
2. The boy is helping me put my stuff in storage, and then I'm getting a ride down with him
3. I haven't bought a return ticket, because I'm trying to figure out if it would be better to bus or fly back to my mom's at the end of november
4. I'm on a pretty tight budget. (I basically have $1,000, plus another $775 in November)
am i freaking out over nothing?
I'm a bit worried that i'll get harassed at the border because even though I've registered for spring courses;
1. I have to give up the space that I'm renting, I can't afford to pay rent on space I'm not using. My ID has my mom's address on it, because thats the address I use for pretty much anything important.
2. The boy is helping me put my stuff in storage, and then I'm getting a ride down with him
3. I haven't bought a return ticket, because I'm trying to figure out if it would be better to bus or fly back to my mom's at the end of november
4. I'm on a pretty tight budget. (I basically have $1,000, plus another $775 in November)
am i freaking out over nothing?
The day before our two month anniversary it is over. It was not my decision and I am devastated. Long and the stort of it is he loves me but he thinks that he is doing me more emotional harm right now than good ... this while I'm going through withdrawal from a horrible anti-anxiety medication and having major issues. I begged, I pleaded. Now was not the time to do this but his mind was made up and that was that. Don't you love it when someone else makes up their mind and it affects you too?
He sent me a note this morning saying how he is sorry and how his heart aches for me but his head said he did the right thing and that he is sorry he did the right thing. I mean, what the fuck? Why would you do that to someone. I had to wake up to that when I was already panicy and unwell.
Anyway. This is my last post.
He sent me a note this morning saying how he is sorry and how his heart aches for me but his head said he did the right thing and that he is sorry he did the right thing. I mean, what the fuck? Why would you do that to someone. I had to wake up to that when I was already panicy and unwell.
Anyway. This is my last post.
I did post a success story, about half way down the page. That was about...a month ago? Yea, just about. Just felt like updating a month post-success story.
Well, I'm sitting here on the couch in his apt as I type this. I've been here every day and hung out with him every weekend so far. The apt has really come together. I don't live here yet, but I will quite soon. Originally, I wanted to try waiting until the summer; but that's just too far away. So then it turned into January, but even then...it's still longer than we both want to wait. So now it's just until the end of October after his parents visit him. They don't know I'm here as much as I am, and they would FLIP if they did. Jon doesn't care as much anymore about their reaction, but being that he only moved in about a month ago, it just sounds good policy not to have lots of traces of me all over the apt. [Especially since they really put some effort and money into moving him in-furniture and stuff.] I'm already on the lease, though. Jon asked about getting a parking permit for me, since I'm here so much. I can only get one if I'm on the lease, so I went through all the paperwork so I could have that permit. Since I'm here every night...that leaves too many opportunities for me to get a ticket. So, paperwork-wise, I'm officially considered a resident here, even though I still go home about every other day to get more closthes.
He just had his 23rd birthday this past Friday. I had the day off, but I didn't tell him about it. I got dressed and left for work as I always do, but I went straight to Wegmans to pick out a cake and have a personalized message written on it. I came back to the apt, and Jon had left for a haircut. So, I set up the scene: the cake was sitting on the table facing the door, with candles I would light as soon as I saw his car enter the parking lot. Oh, and the other part of the surprise being that I was sitting there and not at work. I ended up sitting there posed like that for an hour and a half, though. Hahaaa. He ran a couple other errands since I "wouldn't be there anyways." In my head I was like, "Come the fuck home, honey!" He walked in and was sooooo surprised, and appreciative. It was so great! [The door to the apt opens so you walk into the living/dinning room. There is a slight step up to the dinning room area, which is straight across from the door] So when he opened the door all the way, I was the first thing he saw. I also ordered him a gift that hasn't got here yet. He told me a long while ago that he is a Norman Rockwell fan. So, I got a print framed from art.com. He showed me a bunch of prints he liked a while ago, but the only one I could remember was the marriage license one. I thought that I should try a print with a different subject though. I also thought it'd be a greta gift b/c he wants to get pictures to put on the many bare walls. I'm excited to see his reaction : )
Well, I've been procrastinating on my work, that I planned to work on even though I took a day off. I'm behind, so I'm playing cath-up. It sucks. I'm under-paid and over-worker; a true social worker. Worker makes me miserable on a daily basis b/c of my boss, but other than that, life is pretty good. I get to come home to Jon every day, and fall asleep with him every night. Life doesn't get much better than that : )
Well, I'm sitting here on the couch in his apt as I type this. I've been here every day and hung out with him every weekend so far. The apt has really come together. I don't live here yet, but I will quite soon. Originally, I wanted to try waiting until the summer; but that's just too far away. So then it turned into January, but even then...it's still longer than we both want to wait. So now it's just until the end of October after his parents visit him. They don't know I'm here as much as I am, and they would FLIP if they did. Jon doesn't care as much anymore about their reaction, but being that he only moved in about a month ago, it just sounds good policy not to have lots of traces of me all over the apt. [Especially since they really put some effort and money into moving him in-furniture and stuff.] I'm already on the lease, though. Jon asked about getting a parking permit for me, since I'm here so much. I can only get one if I'm on the lease, so I went through all the paperwork so I could have that permit. Since I'm here every night...that leaves too many opportunities for me to get a ticket. So, paperwork-wise, I'm officially considered a resident here, even though I still go home about every other day to get more closthes.
He just had his 23rd birthday this past Friday. I had the day off, but I didn't tell him about it. I got dressed and left for work as I always do, but I went straight to Wegmans to pick out a cake and have a personalized message written on it. I came back to the apt, and Jon had left for a haircut. So, I set up the scene: the cake was sitting on the table facing the door, with candles I would light as soon as I saw his car enter the parking lot. Oh, and the other part of the surprise being that I was sitting there and not at work. I ended up sitting there posed like that for an hour and a half, though. Hahaaa. He ran a couple other errands since I "wouldn't be there anyways." In my head I was like, "Come the fuck home, honey!" He walked in and was sooooo surprised, and appreciative. It was so great! [The door to the apt opens so you walk into the living/dinning room. There is a slight step up to the dinning room area, which is straight across from the door] So when he opened the door all the way, I was the first thing he saw. I also ordered him a gift that hasn't got here yet. He told me a long while ago that he is a Norman Rockwell fan. So, I got a print framed from art.com. He showed me a bunch of prints he liked a while ago, but the only one I could remember was the marriage license one. I thought that I should try a print with a different subject though. I also thought it'd be a greta gift b/c he wants to get pictures to put on the many bare walls. I'm excited to see his reaction : )
Well, I've been procrastinating on my work, that I planned to work on even though I took a day off. I'm behind, so I'm playing cath-up. It sucks. I'm under-paid and over-worker; a true social worker. Worker makes me miserable on a daily basis b/c of my boss, but other than that, life is pretty good. I get to come home to Jon every day, and fall asleep with him every night. Life doesn't get much better than that : )
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joeybug : LDR Pillow! [+4]
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- taleofaredhead : Sigh. [+9]
- taleofaredhead : UGH. [+0]
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- alannakitty : The door is still open [+11]
- krazykat88 : Traveling always stresses me out. [+7]
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